why do people hurt?
2008-06-15 @ 17:22:44
"When we really see other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do". (unknown)
Sometimes I think some people are despicable. Some of them hurt you conciously, intentionally. It hurts especially when close people do this. Like my friend, Eve. She felt in love with one guy, who has a wife and who treats Eve as a substitute. I hate him. He's abominable (physically and mentally), and he lies - when his wife found out about his romance, he denied everything! He told to her wife, that Eve is just internet acquaintance!, and that he never saw Eve personally! That's not true, they have romance from 1.5 year, they plane to be together! But he is too cowardly for this, he doesn't want to leave her wife, cause: 1. he doesn't work (has imaginative problems with his health) and doesn't want leave his provider, 2. he's just scared of his parents. He's miserable...
But Eve is under his great control. He's just emotional blackmailer, he still impact on her feelings of guilt, everytime he tells her, that she can't leave him, because he will kill himself, or another way - he asks her to stay with him, because of his invalidity (disability).
The worst thing is, that she doesn't want open her eyes and see, who exactly is the man, whom she loves. And finally, she leaves all the people, she was close with before. She hurted me, when she told me, that I am selfish and don't want happiness for her. That is ridiculous - she was my best friend from ages and I always wish her the best! But I can't tell her, that she is right in this situation - and that the reason, why she doesn't want our frienship now.
Last summer I invited her to me (I was living in London that time), and Eve spended 3 weeks there, and she had no time to speak with me, what is wrong with our friendship! I don't know, if she likes London - she told me nothing about it. She just told, that I did wrong with this invitation, because she had to be far away from her sweetheart! (sreeeetheart! - sorry for this).
Today it hurts especially, because I spoke with our friend, and Eve told him, that it is my fault. i can't understand, why people can be so mean, and why it is so easy to betray somebody, who know you many years... and who was with you in good situations and in bad too... I know, sometimes happens situations like this, but I can't understand it. Friendship - for me it was something great, something permanent. i was big fool. It is just one person in my life - my boy-friend - who never betrayed me. And now I am sad, but I enjoy too - because of my Honey, and because I don't have to accept and their situation and her sick guy. It's her life and what she does now, it will have painful consequences in the future. Nobody can do something. I wish her luck but I don't want friendship like that anytime.
Sometimes I think some people are despicable. Some of them hurt you conciously, intentionally. It hurts especially when close people do this. Like my friend, Eve. She felt in love with one guy, who has a wife and who treats Eve as a substitute. I hate him. He's abominable (physically and mentally), and he lies - when his wife found out about his romance, he denied everything! He told to her wife, that Eve is just internet acquaintance!, and that he never saw Eve personally! That's not true, they have romance from 1.5 year, they plane to be together! But he is too cowardly for this, he doesn't want to leave her wife, cause: 1. he doesn't work (has imaginative problems with his health) and doesn't want leave his provider, 2. he's just scared of his parents. He's miserable...
But Eve is under his great control. He's just emotional blackmailer, he still impact on her feelings of guilt, everytime he tells her, that she can't leave him, because he will kill himself, or another way - he asks her to stay with him, because of his invalidity (disability).
The worst thing is, that she doesn't want open her eyes and see, who exactly is the man, whom she loves. And finally, she leaves all the people, she was close with before. She hurted me, when she told me, that I am selfish and don't want happiness for her. That is ridiculous - she was my best friend from ages and I always wish her the best! But I can't tell her, that she is right in this situation - and that the reason, why she doesn't want our frienship now.
Last summer I invited her to me (I was living in London that time), and Eve spended 3 weeks there, and she had no time to speak with me, what is wrong with our friendship! I don't know, if she likes London - she told me nothing about it. She just told, that I did wrong with this invitation, because she had to be far away from her sweetheart! (sreeeetheart! - sorry for this).
Today it hurts especially, because I spoke with our friend, and Eve told him, that it is my fault. i can't understand, why people can be so mean, and why it is so easy to betray somebody, who know you many years... and who was with you in good situations and in bad too... I know, sometimes happens situations like this, but I can't understand it. Friendship - for me it was something great, something permanent. i was big fool. It is just one person in my life - my boy-friend - who never betrayed me. And now I am sad, but I enjoy too - because of my Honey, and because I don't have to accept and their situation and her sick guy. It's her life and what she does now, it will have painful consequences in the future. Nobody can do something. I wish her luck but I don't want friendship like that anytime.